Lost? Truth About Being Lost
Fact Check: Lost is an emotion
Many of us feel thrashed about. Feel as though we float from here to there. Countless people feel invisible or misplaced. Worthless. Combined that’s the perfect recipe for feeling lost.
Lost is described as:
- An inability to find one’s way.
- Not knowing where you’re at.
- Something that recovery alludes.
So many of us can relate to those definitions. Those feelings. The confusion and doubts and fears associated with those definitions resonate, don’t they? Change, frustration – and several other things – can be an open avenue to the jackpot of those feelings. Those, “several other things” can make us feel as though we’ve lost our bearings. That we will never recover what was once ours. Feel like we knew right where we were and now can’t find the path again. And it’s not always our fault the way things have played out. But it hurts just the same.
Being lost, in my opinion, is a basic human emotion. An emotion, I think we experience our entire lives.
Did you catch that? Being lost is an emotion. A state of mind or a feeling if you will.
Allow me to Explain
Emily Mcdowell does a wonderful job of explaining this concept.
She said,
“Finding yourself is not really how it works. You aren’t a ten dollar bill in last winter’s coat pocket. You are also not lost. Your true self is right there, buried under cultural conditioning, other people’s opinions, and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are. “Finding yourself” is actually returning to yourself. An unlearning, an excavation, a remembering who you were before the world got its hands on you.”
She hits the nail on the head. Eloquently describing how and why and what happened to provoke such feelings.
We have a bombardment of opinions, distractions, haters, and naysayers, piled upon us daily. Hourly. Every second. In every direction. We get piles and piles shoveled on top of us. We feel direction-less. How could we not?
No wonder there is so much depression, anxiety, pressure. How are we ever to filter through all this garbage?
When you feel that pull when you think there’s got to be more than this, and you feel so incredibly distorted; remember you are not lost. You are trying to remember who you are in your truest sense. There isn’t anything wrong with you for feeling misplaced. Everyone does sometimes.
Lost? Sift and Remember
That’s why I challenge you to sift through everything that’s burying you.
Ask yourself everything that was too complicated, too consuming, or too difficult to deal with. Work through all the feelings you stuffed away. But the definitions or labels placed on you as a child, teen, adult are not allowed to be your conclusion. Those are inaccurate. They aren’t and never will be the answer to those questions.
Keep digging until you find accurate answers to those questions. Until you remember who you really are. Because once you do, the weight that has left you tired and deflated for so long leaves.
It is a weight that is only lifted for me when I’m writing. It’s like being the truest version of myself. Where other people’s opinions can’t get to me. Where the negativity and garbage of the world can’t weigh me down. My fears and insecurities get left behind and I’m able to just enjoy who I am, where I’m at and be me. It’s my place to dig around a bit. Get to know me more. Figure out what’s bothering me.
I challenge you to find one facet of your life that will ease the weight you carry too.
And remember, anytime you start to drift again, anytime you are going through the motions wandering; Remember feeling lost is an emotion. It’s you trying to tell yourself, “It’s time to get to know me again.”
We’ve never been lost. We’ve just forgotten who we are.
-Kay
